Let’s dive into something unconventional. A topic that ruffles some feathers but is super important: the idea that no one actually needs friends. Sure, having friends is great and can totally add flavor to life. But let’s chat about why depending on others isn’t the best route to happiness.

Unhealthy Dynamics

If you find yourself in desperate need of a friend, you are in trouble. When you feel a lack in your life, often friendships can become a crutch. You are looking for someone to fill a void or to alleviate loneliness. You also want to borrow some emotional support when you’re not at your best. But relying on someone else to manage your feelings? That’s not good, and it can get messy. It can strain relationships, leading to unhealthy dynamics where you’re both leaning on each other and risking mutual collapse.

I’m not saying friendships are pointless! It’s totally lovely to have people in your corner, but the key here is independence. Picture this: you work on being your own person, investing time and energy in your own growth, passions, and quirks. Eventually, you cross paths with others who’ve also cultivated their independence. These friendships flourish because there’s no emotional baggage being swapped back and forth. There are just genuine connections that enrich both your lives without dragging anyone down.

Let’s break it down further. When you “need” a friend, it often comes with an underlying expectation. You unintentionally want to borrow their happiness, or seek validation that you feel is missing from your own life. That’s where things get tricky. People connect over their mutual “shortcomings” or “emptiness,” creating bonds based on what’s not working rather than what is. It’s like supporting each other’s bad habits instead of celebrating each other’s strengths. If that’s the friendship we’re after, then what’s really the point?

A Friend of the World

To be a friend of the world, you have to deny your principles and what you know is right. You can’t be yourself if you want to be accepted. To be liked by everyone, you will tone down your principles. You will pretend to be someone you’re not just to fit into the crowd. The people who like you for this version of yourself? They’re liking a facade, not the real you. You end up being just another cog in the wheel of what’s acceptable. You play along with traits you’ve consciously or unconsciously adopted to gain approval.

But what it we embraced our true selves instead? By staying true to your principles, you naturally attract relationships that resonate with who you genuinely are. No more pretending, no more sacrificing your soul for acceptance. It’s all about being comfortable in your own skin.

Not Having Friends

If you find yourself in the position of not having friends, that’s okay! Every moment can be a chance to discover who you are without that reliance on others. And if you ever find a way to “solve” that problem of loneliness and make a solid connection, great! Just make sure it comes from a place of mutual respect, understanding, and most importantly, independence.

You don’t need friends. Work on being the best version of yourself, and the right people will show up when the time is right. They’ll arrive without all the emotional baggage. Here’s to independence, self-discovery, and building connections that uplift us all!

BE INDEPENDENT

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