Let’s dive deep into all those little battles we fight within ourselves. These battles often play out in our relationships, especially with kids. Life can sometimes feel like an endless tug of war. We struggle between what we want to do and what we know we should do. We all have a “bad nature.” How we deal with it can either drag us down or help us rise above.

Take a Step Back

Imagine this: you’re having a pretty chill day when suddenly, someone cuts you off in traffic. Or a coworker just won’t stop nitpicking. It’s easy to get swept away by that annoying impulse to react in anger or annoyance, right? But what if, instead of responding in kind or just letting it slide, you decided to take a step back? This is where the wonderful world of meditation comes into play.

Meditation isn’t just about sitting cross-legged chanting “Om.” It’s about creating that space where you can observe your thoughts and feelings without judgment. You see that anger, frustration, or temptation lurking in the corner like a mischievous little gremlin? Instead of diving headfirst into a battle with it, you can just stand there and watch it. By observing these feelings, you allow them to slowly drift away. They will eventually fade, just like clouds passing through a bright blue sky.

Rebellion

Now, let’s connect this concept back to our everyday lives—especially in how we interact with others, including our kids. We’ve all experienced that dance where someone tries to push our buttons, right? First, they annoy us, and then, out of nowhere, they flip the script and act all chummy. It’s like they’re trying to wear both the devil’s and the angel’s hat all at once.

When we give in to their tactics, we get caught up in the battles and chaos of anger or confusion. Kids are pros at this! The minute they want something, they can go from being the most angelic creature on earth to a pint-sized tornado. One minute, they’re all sweetness and light, and the next? A full-on rebellion. Sometimes, we’ve the ones who lay the groundwork for that and cause the rebellion.

As parents, we often use this shifty technique. One moment, we’re the authority figure laying down the law, the next, we’re best buddies offering rewards and entertainment. How confusing must that be for them! Kids are sponges, absorbing our actions and mirroring them. When we tease them about their naughtiness, it sends mixed signals. Shifting gears from stern to sweet can lead to confusion and rebellion. Kids just want to feel free. If they sense any possessiveness or overbearing sweetness, they rebel against that too.

Awareness

If we really want to rise above this chaotic dynamic, this tug-of-war, it starts with awareness. Recognizing this cycle for what it is, gives you the power to break it. We also need to acknowledge the games we play with each other. When you’re feeling protective, give them the space to explore rather than clamp down. It’s all about balance.

Awareness is the key. Recognize those patterns, not just in yourself but in how you communicate with those around you. Both anger and excessive kindness can create confusion, and being mindful of our actions helps to break this cycle.

Remember, the next time you feel the urge to fight or give in, just take a breather. Stand back, observe, and let the moment pass. With a little patience, you can find the freedom you’ve been seeking. Keep it chill and don’t let the inner gremlin win!

The Search for Truth: A Journey of Self-Awareness

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