The preoccupation with sex, especially among men, stems from a deep-rooted need for ego validation that having sex is right. Men often seek affirmation through sexual conquests using women to boost their self-esteem. This eagerness for validation leads to having women lie to them and boosting their egos which perpetuates the link between ego and sexual ambition.
Society tends to swing between the sexual extremes of permissiveness and repression. This causes confusion and emotional turmoil, especially within family relationships. If men could comprehend their sexual nature, they could navigate it without succumbing to the two extremes. Finding a middle ground is crucial for understanding and managing one’s sexual nature without falling to societal pressures.
Better Versions
Men need to work through their preoccupation with sex and women, but celibacy is not necessarily a requirement. They need to fully experience relationships with women and transcend those experiences to attain something higher, evolve into better versions of themselves, and be shining examples for their families. This journey toward self-realization requires a shift in perspective, away from the ego-driven preoccupation with sex toward a more profound understanding of love and fulfillment.
Due to our lack of understanding of how we became the way we are in our wrong state, we often use women to reinforce our pride. Every time we engage in forbidden activities and derive pleasure from them, we deteriorate and become more animalistic.
We became this way because the first man desired to be something he could never be. He used the serpent in the woman and consequently fell from grace, losing his inner sense of being. His body compensated by behaving like an animal. As he deviates from his original nature, his ego, being in the wrong, depends on the woman’s wrongness to lie to him that he is not wrong, thus justifying his wrongness.
Love, Not Sex
Most women want to encourage men to develop their bright nature and be real men. However, they struggle to communicate this to men. If they have to tell him to do it, then he is no longer a man. They are at a loss for words.
What a woman truly wants from a man is love, not sex. This kind of love conveys the message for her not to lie to him that sex is right by pretending to want sex because that will excite him and he will have trouble controlling himself for her sake.
When a man comprehends his marital role, he can be physically close to the woman and yet overcome his sexual desire for her. The man will often fail to do this. However, marriage is where these failures are permitted and children are born. The woman won’t mind that kind of failure because she sees a hopeful future in his struggle for her sake.
A man’s ability to resist temptations and focus on non-emotional love can lead to personal growth and a deeper sense of being masculine. To be truly a man, you must eventually leave your preoccupation with sex and abstain even when you have sexual yearnings. Your perception of the truth will be sharper. You will become more mature and happier in that role.
The Key
To overcome your preoccupation with sex, whether single or married, it is essential to avoid entertaining sexual thoughts and ideas. You must rise above these thoughts and not wait until they die in you. Many individuals find it very difficult to control such thoughts independently by using their willpower.
The key lies in practicing mindfulness through meditation. When these thoughts arise, avoid struggling to dismiss them, as this can make them stronger. Instead, relax and objectively observe them without emotion as they come and go until you return to the present moment and your mind is still. Remain in that present moment as long as possible every day.
It may take time to master mindfulness but with persistence, you can enhance self-observation and become a more grounded individual. The quality of your relationships will intensify and contribute to a meaningful life.
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