Why do we, as men, have an obsession with women? It’s like we’ve made them our personal deities. Our thoughts often wander to the woman like moths to a flame. But why does this happen year-round when most animals in their natural state have their mating seasons and done? There is something bizarre about the man/woman relationship. Men have a strange fascination for women, and women have a fascination for man’s fascination for them.
Is It Love or Just Escape?
At first glance, it looks like love. But if you dig deeper, you’ll find something far more complex. It lurks beneath the surface, acting as an escape mechanism from our own realities. When many men look at women, an urge surfaces. This urge seems less about genuine connection and more about dodging the truth. Many fellas don’t want to confront that they feel like “dogs” rather than “gods.” Because of the trauma of failing, even the thought of women awakens sensuality.
For some guys, not all, there is an overwhelming anxiety tied up in facing their true selves. This self feels inadequate or even lost, and they avoid dealing with those feelings directly. Instead, they pour their energy into pursuing women as if she holds all the answers.
The Illusion of the Goddess
When guys idolize women as goddesses, they project hopes for validation onto them. They seek escape from their own fears. It becomes a cycle where men’s neediness fuels women’s allure. You know how intriguing those enigmatic figures can be! This dynamic feeds off itself. Both parties become so enmeshed in this bizarre back-and-forth. They lose sight of what a genuine connection feels like without all those added layers of distraction.
Imagine encountering a truly noble woman who embodies light and understanding. Many men experience discomfort instead of feeling excitement over her purity and strength. She reflects back all those insecurities he tries desperately to mask with his pursuits elsewhere. A decent, high-quality lady does not attract these men at all.
The Addictive Nature of Obsession
This fixation can become downright addictive. Each new interaction becomes another episode filled with suspense. Will there be a chance at redemption or just one more failed effort leading him further down the rabbit hole. Understandably then why noble ladies who embody virtue turn out unattractive__they’re not playing along with his fantasy game! Instead, they’re calling him out on his issues without even saying anything outright! She doesn’t want to play the role as his goddess.
The decent, innocent woman can’t understand why men have their obsession with women. But, if she becomes frustrated by being objectified, she will start to hate that. She will become guilty for hating. This guilt leads to a corruption of her values and causes a loss of her own sense of self. This creates confusion leading her right back into catering to superficial desires rather than seeking authentic bonds.
Finding Balance Amidst Chaos
So how do we break free from this chaotic dance? It’s recognizing what’s truly happening beneath the surface of our interactions. Understanding that this constant chase is often more about distraction than genuine connection can be a game-changer. Men need to confront their insecurities and acknowledge the truth within themselves__embracing vulnerability instead of running from it.
This doesn’t mean that we abandon our attraction to women altogether. Rather, we channel that energy into forming deeper, more meaningful connections based on mutual respect and understanding. We should break free from the illusion. A woman can’t save us or confirm us through her mere existence in our life.
A Call for Genuine Connection
A healthy amount of attraction is natural and human. But it’s critical to recognize when it crosses over into obsession or avoidance behavior. The goal should be to appreciate women as equals. They have struggles, desires, and complexities. They should not be seen as objects of worship. When men start recognizing women as partners in this wild journey called life, both parties stand to gain immensely! Men should stop viewing women as goddesses or sources of escape.
Imagine relationships built on honesty where each person feels free enough to express vulnerabilities without fear of judgment. Next time you find yourself lost in thought about some captivating woman, pause for a moment. Ask yourself: Am I truly interested in getting to know her? Or am I just looking for a way out? Ultimately, stepping away from the obsession will guide us toward healthier relationships with women. It will also lead us to embrace who we are at our core. This is a journey worth taking!
Remember, attraction can lead us down winding paths that are filled with fantasies and illusions. True connection comes when we face reality with open hearts and minds!
Check out books on gender dynamics like: “The Way of the Superior Man,” by David Deida. This will offer further insights into men’s psychology about relationship!
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