Forming attachments to people, places, or things creates dependencies. Those attachments are often made because they make you feel like you have gained something, but in reality, you have lost something. This realization can lead to feelings of betrayal and anger, making a wrong situation worse. Someone has taken away your support, leaving you feeling vulnerable.

A Cycle of Love and Hate

It is important to realize that when you are tempted to either love or hate, you become less of a person, not more. This realization creates a need to feel more, leading to a cycle of alternating between love and hate. The more you hate, the more you need “love.” The more you love, the more you find you are less, and you need to hate again, over and over again.

It is normal to feel empty at times, as everything we do in our egotistical state is driven by our self-interest. Even acts of kindness are often done with the expectation of receiving something in return. You don’t do it out of actual love, but out of selfishness.

Playing the Game

This self-interest can lead to manipulation and a sense of power for both parties involved. For instance, when you treat a woman to dinner and a show, you expect a small reward, a little love for it. To you, that is worth more than the price of the dinner.

You are manipulating that person to support your desire. The woman is also playing the game and trying to get some form of value in what you both are doing. 

The fate of your soul hangs in the balance. The woman knows what you are up to and will let you manipulate her. She will give you your so-called love in exchange for security and a sense of power.

Ego and Pride

Whenever your ego is catered to, whenever someone offers you an advantage for your selfish pleasure, there is a hidden intention to enslave you. The extent to which you possess ego determines the extent to which you become entrapped in one form or another. You need to overcome your needy ego that is greedy for life’s existence.

Your ego arises due to a deficiency or a failing of the soul. Pride is the characteristic of the devil, while ego is the soul that God gave us to love Him, allowing His identity to be implanted within us. 

When a man succumbs to pride, he seeks support for this fallen nature in a woman. The nurturing aspect of a woman responds to the man’s call similar to a mother tending to the cries of her baby and finding fulfillment in her child. It is unmanly to attach himself in such a way to the woman.

She becomes the foundation of his existence. She feels obligated and finds it difficult to refuse him. She fails to understand his desperate need for her. However, if she distances herself from him and his attachment to her, refusing to be used in this manner, she may attempt to escape from him through her involvement with another man and thus, easily fall prey to someone else’s manipulation. What a chaotic mess.

We must recognize this reality, be mindful, and strive to discover the solution from within us.

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