The ego, in its fallen condition, is both king and judge. It constantly seeks approval from others and judges those around us. Every time we experience the ego-driven emotion of judging others, we sin. We also sin every time we look for approval or validation from others. These emotions only serve to stimulate an evolutionary decay within ourselves.
When we seek love and approval from others, we ultimately deceive them and ourselves. If someone does love us, it is because our false persona has deceived them. Alternatively, it is because they are the deceiver themselves. This leads to a cycle of hurt and betrayal.
A power dynamic is often at play in man/woman relationships. Through her words and actions, the woman can deceive the man into feeling like a king. However, this deception ultimately leads to feelings of judgment as the man realizes he has been misled. His ego had encouraged the woman to lie to him. That is the way she stimulates his ego.
This cycle of love-hate can be toxic and damaging to both parties involved. The need for approval from another person only perpetuates this destructive pattern.
Focus on Finding Fulfillment Within Ourselves
Instead of seeking approval from others, we should focus on finding fulfillment within ourselves. False affection can deceive us. True happiness can’t come from external sources but must be cultivated internally.
By acknowledging our own worth independent of outside approval, we can break free from the cycle of seeking validation and judgment in relationships. We can learn to love ourselves without needing external affirmation.
Ultimately, the key to breaking free from the destructive pattern lies in recognizing the false nature of ego-driven validation. It also involves seeking genuine self-acceptance. It is only through this process that we can truly break free. This helps us escape the cycle of hurt, betrayal, and judgment in our relationships.
I suggest checking out the following resources for further reading on this topic.
1.”The Ego as False Idol.” This article explores how our ego-driven desires for validation and approval can lead us astray from fulfillment.
2. “Breaking Free from Egocentric Relationships.” In this blog post, you’ll find practical advice on how to break free from toxic relationship patterns driven by ego-based needs for approval.
3. “The Imitation of God: Finding Fulfillment within Ourselves.” This insightful piece delves into the spiritual aspect of seeking internal fulfillment rather than relying on external validation.
I hope these resources offer further insight into understanding and overcoming the destructive nature of seeking approval. It is important to tackle the impact of judgment in relationships.
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