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When two individuals become emotionally involved, a potentially dangerous situation arises. Emotional entanglement, although encouraged by society and enjoyed by many, can lead to harmful outcomes. It is important to recognize the dangers associated with such engagement.

When a woman becomes emotionally involved with a man she takes away his authority because that is her way to gain power and control. The man feels threatened by this dynamic and senses that something is wrong yet he uses it as a means to evade his guilt.

Love/Hate Cycle

Emotional entanglements serve as a means of escape. Love and hate are two forms of emotional involvement. It is crucial to avoid both extremes and find a middle ground.

Can you withstand the absence of emotional attachment and confront your weaknesses and wickedness? By doing so, your dispassionate perspective will hold up a mirror to him, compelling him to face himself. However, as long as you harbor feelings of hate or love towards him, he will remain blind to the root of his problems. He only perceives your wrongdoings and the pain you cause him. He feels threatened by you and harbors hatred toward you. Your negative responses only intensify the conflict.

The human love a woman has for a man contributes to continuing what is wrong with the man. For instance, when someone loves a thief, it can reinforce their thieving ways. This dynamic can turn a marriage into a chaotic environment.

Human love can transform into hate leading individuals to engage in destructive behavior and distractions such as alcohol, drug abuse, loud music, and more. This transformation can turn a person into a beast, as the human race has shifted from real love to emotional love.

The love bestowed upon the man can lead to his contempt for the one who “loves” him. He becomes dependent on this love, but when something goes wrong he blames the person who loved him. Consequently, the woman begins to resent him for hating her, which leads to her feeling guilty. In an attempt to alleviate this guilt, she tries to love him again, hoping to replace her negative emotions with positive ones. However, this love/hate cycle continues to repeat itself over and over again unless she realizes what she is doing and looks within.

Solutions:

It is important not to perform actions solely to please someone else and then gain personal satisfaction from it. Instead, tasks should be done because you know they just have to be done.

When you are emotionally tied to someone, doing household chores to please him can be seen as manipulation, resulting in his resentment towards you. Consequently, you may be reluctant to do the chores since he doesn’t appreciate it. This cycle, centered around you seeking emotional ego support, becomes the foundation of your existence, as your emotions sustain your ego’s survival.

All of us need to learn how to be unemotionally involved with people. Our emotions and feelings are inherently selfish. When we do something for someone and derive a nice feeling from it, it is a selfish act.

The ideal approach is to do something nice without any personal gratification. This way, we are truly doing something for the other person and not for ourselves. Otherwise, we risk becoming addicted to the act of doing nice things for others. Our mental health is dependent on our ability to remain detached or, even better, objective, and sustain that state for longer periods.