The expression “falling in love” is commonly used in romantic literature and movies, depicting the state of being emotionally in love with someone, accompanied by an illusive sense of euphoria and perfection. However, this illusion ultimately leads to dissatisfaction and conflict.
Women are naturally attracted to the wrongs or flaws in men, finding excitement in them. Similarly, prideful men are drawn to the wrongs in women to sustain the wrongs in themselves. This phenomenon of falling in love leads to each person taking advantage of the other’s shortcomings. It is a falling from one level to a lower, animal level instead of rising to a higher, spiritual level.
When the illusion of euphoria wears off, they eventually resent the wrongs in each other and create another form of “value” in their relationship. This earthy form of love and hate revolves around embracing the wrongs and feeling righteous about oneself.
When you love someone who is flawed and they love you back, it gives you a sense of satisfaction. Even when you hate the wrongs in others, you still perceive yourself as good. However, there is a different kind of love and hate that doesn’t revolve around a fascination with wrongs.
True Happiness
Resenting people is a selfish pleasure that reinforces one’s ego and self-righteousness. True happiness comes from being at peace within yourself. You are so centered that you don’t need to rely on others to love you, and you don’t care if others hate you because you don’t need to hate.
This essential lesson should be taught and emphasized in church and school, as it forms the foundation for all other teachings. ”Seek first the kingdom of God, and all else will be added.” The kingdom is within you. Man is controlled from within, not from without. ”As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
Your first love affair should be with your creator within yourself, surrendering your will and pride to align with His will. Only then will you find fulfillment and have the perception to detect and correct those wrong relationships. Thus, you will be able to love others in the right way. You will be rising in love instead of falling.
Otherwise, you will always find yourself entangled in the wrongs of others, just as they become entangled in yours. This is what drives you to the brink of frustration, as others can never fill the void that only God can occupy. All they can do is take something of you away from you. They never deliver what they promise you. They cannot. Nobody can.
Entanglement
When lost in your thoughts or imagination, you become entangled in worries, hatred, and judgments, veering away from the truth of what is wrong with you. This entanglement is fueled by the deceptive notion of falling in love. You get caught up in the falsehood of others that we call love.
Hatred toward someone intensifies the need for love, whether from them or another. Even if they claim to love you, it is a lie. This deception is further made worse because he or she should not have been put in that position to lie to you. Hence, it is necessary to adhere to the laws of God.
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