Let’s be honest, marriage isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Many folks walk down that aisle believing that they’re embarking on a fairy tale. They sometimes choose a romantic beach setting or a traditional church. But hold up! What many don’t realize is that many newlyweds start their marital journey with the wrong mindset. They’re thinking it’s all about “using” each other in an exciting way. Still, this approach can lead to some serious relationship setbacks down the line.

Lawless Love

In the early phase of marriage, that framework of use feels kinda flattering. The woman, feeling adored and celebrated, sometimes thinks this dynamic is a tribute to her. She believes it is because of her beauty, her charm, and the way she lights up the room. Meanwhile, the man is over the moon to bask in her affection. The two become entangled in a physical attraction, driven by primal instincts as they explore their connection. That spark can feel intoxicating at first!

Still, as time rolls on, that free-spirited, lawless love can start to reveal darker, less appealing sides in both partners. The very “use” that seemed so sweet initially morphs into a toxic power game. The man, with his all-consuming sexual urge, unintentionally stokes the flames of his wife’s more manipulative traits, her guile. He thinks he’s cheering her on, but in reality, he is fueling a side of her that thrives on control. That’s the last thing he ever wanted to do.

The Real Woman

Here’s where it gets tricky: she isn’t just being playful or cute. Underneath all that glitter, the real woman can feel trapped like a princess locked in a tower. She wants to break free, to communicate her true feelings, to rouse him from his oblivion. Her flirtation starts as teasing. Then, it escalates to anger and frustration. Now she’s trying to wake him up to the situation. Unfortunately, he misreads those signals. He thinks she’s just craving more sexual intimacy because that is what he wants to believe. What she truly yearns for is something deeper, something real.

Let’s be honest, sex is a falling away from what love is all about. Sex alone doesn’t equal love. This misunderstanding can lead to some pretty rocky terrain. Often, it takes a while for the man to understand this. He finds himself facing challenges in his relationship, wondering why bliss has turned into bickering. After enduring a long period of trials and tribulations in his marriage, he finally has an epiphany. He has a shift in his entire perspective. He learns to temper his physical urges and disciplines himself for her sake. Then the princess is rescued from the tower by her true prince, and their marriage improves.

Wrapping It Up

So, maybe it’s time to rethink that old adage about sex being the glue that holds a marriage together. The reality? Less sex can often mean more when it comes to emotional fulfillment in a relationship. It’s not just about coupling as physical beings. It’s about opening the doors to a heart-to-heart connection that can weather any storm.

Married bliss isn’t about possessing or using each other. It’s about seeing one another, supporting each other, and uplifting the best parts of each other. So here’s to evolving, to allowing that relationship to blossom into something real. The less sex in a marriage, the happier the marriage. It’s happiest when there’s no sex! As the saying goes, “They lived happily ever after.” The End

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