When a husband feels weakened, destroyed, or humiliated by his wife’s “loving” actions, he may feel compelled to reject her to preserve his sense of self-worth. However, this can hurt his wife and hinder their relationship. The husband needs to approach his wife’s needs in a manly way, a more selfless and understanding manner, rather than focusing solely on his ego.

The husband must recognize that a woman may have a strong need for her partner due to personal troubles or concerns, but he must be cautious not to exploit her vulnerability for his sexual gratification. This is a lesson that all men must learn.

A Woman’s Desires

A woman will express her need even if she wants a new car or fur coat. She will boost your ego and reduce your authority. While it may temporarily boost your ego and diminish your authority, you will ultimately pay for this conflict.

When a woman desires you sexually, you need to understand what it is that is crying out to you. You must learn to gently set aside her desires, without emotionally rejecting her, and help her to understand that the excessive sexual activity may not be good for you and her. This kind of rejection will actually make her feel more secure.

Explain to her that true happiness does not mainly come from sex, but rather from a deeper kind of love. By guiding her away from her belief that she needs to give sex to receive what she thinks is good for her, you will help her find a more secure sense of self.

It is worth noting that society has ingrained in women the idea that they can find security through a man’s sexual failures or shortcomings, but this is not a healthy or sustainable mindset.

What Does A Woman Want?

When a woman is feeling sad, frustrated, guilty, unhappy, or lonely, she may seek solace in her partner’s sexual shortcomings by turning him on. She may unknowingly engage in behaviors that please him sexually, but ultimately harm him and their relationship. 

It is crucial for the man to resist any resentment towards his wife’s success in this regard and not resent her happiness at his expense. Recognize that one person’s happiness often comes at the cost of another’s. The key lies in the man’s ability to truly understand what she really wants.

She wants you to be bodily close to her without you seeking sexual gratification with her. Provide her with the warmth of your presence without any ulterior motives.

Even if you experience sexual desire, learn to control it for her sake. This will ultimately lead to her genuine happiness.

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