In looking for love, your desire often stems from seeking approval. This desire for love or support can reflect a sense of inadequacy within yourself. If you were adequate or right, you wouldn’t need love from anyone.

Your yearning for love may lead you to compromise your values or self-worth in exchange for affection, even if it means making unfavorable concessions. The wrong part of you wants that kind of love and will do anything to get it. It may even trade with the devil.

The wrong kind of person will tempt you and give you that kind of love if you lower yourself. When he (or she) aggravates, abuses, or exploits you, you start to resent him. This resentment makes you feel worse. So you look for more love to alleviate your pain, engaging in behaviors you shouldn’t be doing to get that love. This pattern of seeking validation through love can lead to a cycle of love and hate. When he takes advantage of you, you hate him, then feeling worse, you love him over and over again.

True Fulfillment

It is crucial to recognize that true fulfillment does not hinge on receiving love from others. You won’t die if you don’t receive it, but you may die if you do receive it. Worldly love supports your ego and creates conflict with divine love. Your ego-driven life is built on love and hate. Instead of looking for love from others, seek God’s love for “he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.”*

Understanding that one’s worth is not dependent on external validation, can liberate you from the cycle of looking for love to fill a void. By giving up your need for constant approval, you can break free from the temptation of hatred and embrace a sense of inner freedom and self-sufficiency.

Ideal Love

Love transcends gender boundaries as it does not belong exclusively to either males or females. In many cases, husbands corrupt their wives and fail to correct them. Thus, allowing them to continue to misbehave and remain unchanged. They love their wives for their faults instead of away from their faults.

While ideally love is expected from a man in marriage, it is crucial not to resent him when it is not received as anticipated. Understanding his shortcomings and lack of comprehension in giving you the love you need without hating him can lead to finding within yourself the love you are looking for.

*Hebrews 11:6

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