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If a man believes that his need for a woman is equivalent to love, he is inadvertently placing an immense burden on her.  Any need one has for another person is a substitute for their need for God.  By placing someone in the position of God, one unintentionally brings out the dark side in that person, forcing them to serve a purpose they were never meant to fulfill.

When a man kisses and makes love to a woman, his primary motivation is not to please her but rather to satisfy his sexual desires.  He is driven by his ego and seeks pleasure from the woman’s participation.  However, under these circumstances, he is unable to truly love the woman.

Sexual Conflict

Even when the man shows affection by putting his arm around her and hugging her, it is ultimately for his gratification. The woman can sense this underlying need in him, which triggers a negative response within her. She resents him for prioritizing his own needs over hers, making it difficult for her to receive the love she truly desires.

A woman requires love, but when a man indulges in his own sexual desires with the woman, labeling it as “love,” he is inadvertently summoning the forces of hell out of the woman to serve him, causing harm to her. She may derive a certain kind of energy, strength, or power from this sexual interaction, which boosts her ego, but ultimately proves detrimental to both parties involved.

Throughout history, a woman possesses a natural or inherent advantage over a man when it comes to having sex together.

It is a common observation that there are few truly happy marriages in every home. Similarly, while marriage and democracy are considered good institutions, the number of successful marriages and thriving democracies is limited. This can be attributed to a prevailing sense of discontent and dissatisfaction in the spirit of the people.                                              

Sensibility

It is important to recognize that true love for a woman is not based on need, but rather on mutual respect and support. You married her to use her for your sexual needs. She married you to make use of your use of her. 

When a relationship is based on using each other, love becomes negative, and both individuals deteriorate. They become consumed by hate, violence, and blame, constantly fighting and making up. Instead of becoming more sensible, they become more sensual and focused on their physical desires. 

They judge and blame each other for their shortcomings. She blames him for not loving her, using her, being weak, and not standing up to her. He blames her for not satisfying his growing need for more sex.

When she indulges him with more and more sex, it only strengthens his ego and turns him into an animal, a wild beast. It creates conflict within him and diminishes his sense of manhood.

It is important to understand all of this and strive to become more sensible and less sensual.