Marriage can be a hazardous union, especially if you are unprepared for it. It is essential to be mature before taking the plunge. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself in hot water.

A woman can be a force to be reckoned with if you don’t know how to deal with her. Your spouse will just finish off what your mother started with you. Make sure you’re ready for the challenges of marriage before saying, “I do.”

The woman you married is pushing and testing your weaknesses to gain love. Women and children have two basic ways of seeking love from you, and it is important that you understand them.

1. They can seek your affection and try to please you.
2. They can try to tease or tempt you to become angry, hoping to make you fall.

But here’s the thing: you must not let yourself fall for any of it. If you do, you are only spoiling them and weakening them in the process. To navigate this hazardous terrain, you need to set up boundaries. Draw an invisible line that you will not cross when tolerating certain behaviors. It is all about having a perfect sense of justice. You must be so composed and self-assured that you won’t stray from it.

If you genuinely have this perfect sense of justice, without being self-righteous, your emotions will be reasonably under control. That’s when you’ll be truly ready for marriage. See, it’s not about seeking the sweetness, joys, and pleasures marriage can bring you. It’s about what you can bring to the marriage. So, focus on being the best partner you can be, and you’ll be well-prepared for this journey called marriage. It will be well worth it.

Guidance

It’s essential to allow your spouse and children to express themselves freely. Let them express freely even if they cuss or say terrible things against you. Don’t suppress their feelings. If they feel that way, let them speak their mind. Don’t let their words bother you; if it doesn’t bother you, it bothers them for saying it.

They have the freedom to express their wrong just as you have the right to express your right. When right and wrong collide, the truth will prevail, and they will eventually recognize it. As a father and spouse, you should guide them toward better judgment. Help them instill high regard and respect for what is true.

The Dynamic of Conflict

Conflict and contest act as catalysts. They allow truth to flourish. These elements transform individuals far more effectively than mere words of a book or church rituals. Truth is not static but is a dynamic force that thrives during confrontation.

The children’s wrongs clash with their father’s innocence. They are confronted with their own wrongs and they are compelled to acknowledge them. This self-realization happens through your heightened consciousness. It allows them to truly comprehend the gravity of their wrongs. They learn to appreciate your high level of consciousness. As they recognize the wrongs they have done to you, they start to achieve a sense of peace. This sense of peace grows within themselves and restores their relationship with you.

But, it is crucial to have a high level of consciousness to awaken the children’s awareness of their behavior. In essence, conflict and contest reveal the truth.

It is important to note that this awakening of consciousness requires a high level of awareness. Only then can you effectively guide the children and your spouse toward recognizing the impact of their actions.

So, embrace the power of conflict and contest; through these experiences, the truth is unveiled, and personal growth is achieved.

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