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Marriage can be a hazardous union, especially if you are unprepared for it. It is essential to be mature before taking the plunge. Otherwise, you might find yourself in hot water.
A woman can be a force to be reckoned with if you don’t know how to deal with her. Your spouse might just finish off what your mother started with you. Make sure you’re ready for the challenges of marriage before saying, “I do.”
The woman you married is pushing and testing your weaknesses in order to gain love. Women and children have two basic ways of seeking love from you, and it is important that you understand them.
- They may try to tease and tempt you, hoping to make you fall.
- They may seek your affection and try to please you.
But here’s the thing: you must not let yourself fall for any of it. If you do, you are only spoiling them and weakening them in the process. To navigate this hazardous terrain, you need to establish boundaries. Draw an invisible line that you will not cross when tolerating certain behaviors. It is all about having a perfect sense of justice. You must be so composed and self-assured that you won’t stray from it.
If you genuinely possess this perfect sense of justice, not self-righteousness, you will find that your emotions are reasonably under control. That’s when you’ll be truly ready for marriage. See, it’s not about seeking the sweetness, joys, and pleasures marriage can bring you. It’s about what you can bring to the marriage. So, focus on being the best partner you can be, and you’ll be well-prepared for this journey called marriage. It will be well worth it.
Guidance
It’s essential to give your spouse and children the freedom to express themselves, even if they cuss and say all kinds of terrible things against you. Don’t suppress their feelings. If they feel that way, let them speak their mind. Don’t let their words bother you; if it doesn’t bother you, it bothers them for saying it.
They have the freedom to express their wrong just as you have the right to express your right. When right and wrong collide, the truth will prevail, and they will eventually recognize it. As a father, your role is to guide them toward better judgment and instill high regard and respect for what is true.
The Dynamic of Conflict
Conflict and contest are catalysts that enable truth to flourish and transform individuals far more effectively than mere words of a book or church rituals. Truth is not static but is a dynamic force that thrives during confrontation.
When the children’s wrongs clash with their father’s innocence, they are confronted with their wrongs and are compelled to acknowledge them. This self-realization, guided by your heightened consciousness, allows them to truly comprehend the gravity of their wrongs and appreciate your high level of consciousness. As they come to terms with the wrongs they have done to you and themselves, a sense of peace is restored within themselves and their relationship with you.
However, it is crucial to possess a high level of consciousness to awaken the children’s awareness of their behavior. In essence, conflict and contest reveal the truth.
It is important to note that this awakening of consciousness requires a high level of awareness. Only then can you effectively guide the children and your spouse toward recognizing the impact of their actions.
So, embrace the power of conflict and contest; through these experiences, the truth is unveiled, and personal growth is achieved.