Let’s dive into a topic that many shy away from discussing openly: masturbation. It’s not just about the act itself, it’s about the sexual imagery and fantasies that tag along for the ride. They can toss us into a whirlwind of guilt and anxiety. Why it that? The real “sin”—if we want to label it that way—begins in our minds. Desires and images happens long before any physical action takes place.

The Fantasy Trap

You would rather not do the sexual act, but your mind can create vivid scenarios while you lie in bed. When you feel that wave of anxiety creeping in on you, it signals something deeper. We often dismiss these feelings. Instead, we indulge in fantasies that can pull us even further away from reality.

We’ve all had those days where we’re just overwhelmed with emotions. You’re busy with life, distracted by work, social media, excessively watching shows, or even crying. Caught up in the whirlwind of emotion, you don’t truly feel the weight of your conscience bearing down on you. It’s only in those quiet moments, when everything settles and your energy dips, that the internal battle begins. You sense that discomfort—that conflict between what you want to do and what you know you should do.

Reality Check, Please

Conscience acts as our reminder to snap us back to reality. But if you’re in a state of, “I don’t wanna!” you will resist that reminder and even reject reality altogether. “Why face the truth when I can dive into this delicious fantasy?” you think. And in doing so, we often spiral down an enticing rabbit hole. Our craving for that vivid imagery begins to swell, growing larger and larger.

This isn’t just a solo guy thing or a girl problem; it’s a human condition. Our sexuality is often intertwined with our identity and desires.

The Problem of Sexuality

How do we navigate the sexual part of being human? To be a true man—or woman—of God you eventually must conquer your sexuality—this incessant pull towards sexual temptation. Serving both God and our carnal desires is inconceivable. That sounds extreme, especially for us mere mortals trying to juggle everyday life and our own desires. But hear me out: the essence of this statement is about self-control and understanding our relationship with sexuality.

When we think of sexuality as merely a biological drive, we overlook deeper layers. These layers intertwine with our emotional and spiritual aspects. Many believe, particularly in religious or philosophical contexts, that sexuality can distract us from our higher purpose or spiritual goals. To become a man of God or an enlightened individual, one must confront and wrestle with these desires. If not, they run rampant and lead to a life devoid of purpose.

The poignant point here is about original sin. The idea that we are born with an inherent struggle against our base desires is central in many doctrines. Consciousness about our very existence often brings an acute sense of discomfort. This awareness can be a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it’s a reminder of our humanity. On the other hand, it can feel like a curse when we face uncomfortable truths about ourselves.

Embracing the Struggle

So, how do we reconcile these feelings? What’s important is not to demonize the drive itself, but rather to observe the fantasy without being consumed by it. Instead of basking in shame over our natural inclinations, we can focus on mastering our feeling and desires. Educating ourselves, reflecting on our feelings, and connecting with our core values can help us navigate through murky waters.

When the urge to indulge in masturbation comes, look at it calmly and objectively without anger or fantasies. Anger and images only inflames the urge. You will fail many times before the urges start to decrease. You either decrease your sexuality, or you increase it until you die.

Acceptance is a big part of the journey. Accepting that you have these urges is the first step in overcoming them to find peace within yourself. Embrace the struggle between your worldly desires and your higher aspirations. This can foster growth and lead to a more fulfilled and purposeful life.

So, the next time anxiety hits and those thoughts start swirling, take a moment to breathe and check-in with yourself. Deal with the discomfort without rising to fill that void with fleeting fantasies. Life’s too short to be running from ourselves. Mastery over our desires can just unlock greater joy and peace than any temporary escape can offer.

Sex Drives and Control

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