When someone tells you they love you the way you are, they lie to you. These words may seem harsh, but they hold a truth many people are reluctant to acknowledge. It concerns the complex nature of human relationships and societal expectations. Today’s society bombards us with messages about love and relationships. These messages paint an idealized picture of what it means to be in a partnership.
But reality is far from that ideal. The truth is, we are dealing with confusing beings—people of all genders. Starting with women, this notion of a woman’s love being a lie to capture a husband may seem extreme. Yet, it has some validity. Society has perpetuated certain expectations of women. These expectations lead them to put on a different face to attract a man. They only reveal themselves after marriage. They use deception to control and seek to keep their partners off balance to maintain power. Instead of functioning out of reason, the men will function out of their wives unreasonableness.
Nonetheless, this does not mean that all women are deceitful or manipulative. It points out that societal expectations and pressures can often drive individuals to behave in ways that may not align with their true selves. Society often expects individuals to act differently. As a result, people sometimes behave contrary to their true selves.
Being Manly
When it comes to men, an expectation is placed on them – the idea of being manly. But what does it truly mean to be manly? A real man stands for what is right regardless of what he loses or gains. He does not give in to pressure from others just for the sake of peace or appeasement.
Conversely, an unmanly man will compromise his principles to avoid conflict or confrontation. He gives in for temporary peace, often resulting in long-term turmoil and regret.
The relationship between partners also plays into this dynamic. Many men struggle with resenting their wives. They fail to realize that they have chosen their wives as partners to overcome traits reminiscent of their mothers. The mother in their wives is what they have to overcome to become real men themselves.
Fathers
Fathers also play an important role in shaping their children’s perceptions about relationships and masculinity. The father’s job is often seen as saving his children from their mother’s ” love.” He must help them navigate any negative influences stemming from their relationship with their mother.
Many fathers are not strong enough to deal with most mothers. They are not manly enough for their sons to imitate them as role models. The son will grow up to marry someone like his mother, and the cycle continues.
Men who get married today as validation of their manliness are not manly to start with. Real men do not necessarily “need” to get married as validation. They can stand firm on principles, including standing up for what is right against pressure regardless of consequences.
In conclusion, these ideas show some harsh realities about the nature and societal expectations placed upon us all. Yet, it is essential to remember that society isn’t stagnant. People can learn awareness tools to navigate through these challenges.
Link: Man-Woman Relationships
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