When entering a relationship, taking the time to truly know your partner before considering marriage is important. Rushing into a commitment with someone you don’t fully understand, who may have many hidden problems, can lead to reinforcing negative traits in each other. By investing time in understanding your partner’s values, beliefs, and behavior over a period of two or more years, you can build a stronger foundation for a successful marriage.
Marriage is the framework where the problems of being human can be worked out together. It should not be solely driven by lust. That sounds terrible, and it is. Sex is the basic instinct that emerges from the failing of pride. That is the root of trouble in the home.
A man who marries solely for physical desires risks damaging the relationship by using his partner as a means to fulfill his own needs. An egotistical man will use the woman for all she is worth. He will use her body until she can’t stand it, and he becomes an animal. He is not trying to work out the problem of lust with her but rather to cultivate everything that is sick in him. There cannot be any future in that.
Self-Discipline and Respect
On the other hand, a decent, honest man who exercises self-discipline and respect for his partner’s needs and emotions fosters a healthier and successful marriage. He may sometimes fail to bridle his passions but strives to fail less and less to make the marriage more harmonious. A good man will not only bridle his lust but will discipline himself in other areas, such as overeating and drinking. By being mindful and observing himself, he will conquer his lower nature and emerge as the real person he truly is.
Failure to be mindful may lead you to abandon yourself to your passions and indulge yourself endlessly to forget the truth about it. Stand back and see the harm that it does. One of you should have such thoughtfulness that grows and grows until no more harmful lust is left. What remains is the pure love that Adam and Eve had in paradise before their fall from grace.
It is that lustful problem working its way out where one discourages the sin and pride in the other. The other way is encouraging sin and pride and developing the sensual, animal self until it becomes like two beasts fighting each other in the jungle of a marrige. True love and understanding can only blossom when both partners are willing to put in the effort to overcome their lower nature and prioritize the well being of each other.
There is thoughtfulness and discipline for times when the woman is not feeling right. By not being angry with her when she doesn’t instantly satisfy your needs, you can back away and become considerate. Those moments of thoughtfulness that overrides your lusts are what make a man out of an ape.
Summary
Thoughtfulness and self-discipline play crucial roles in maintaining a harmonious partnership. You demonstrate maturity and respect in the relationship by prioritizing your partner’s well-being over immediate gratification. Cultivating a deep connection based on empathy and consideration, rather than succumbing to base instincts, allows for the growth of pure love and mutual understanding, creating a fulfilling, successful marriage built on respect and genuine care.
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