Let’s examine a topic rarely discussed in casual dinner conversations. It’s about the wisdom of not trusting people in relationships. I know, it sounds cynical, but stick with me. It’s not just a pessimistic rant, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll nod your head along the way.

Now, we’ve all been there: looking for connection, wanting to form those deep bonds with others. But placing that faith in people can be like building a castle on sand. When you start trusting people the way you should trust your creator, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Divine Presence

We often want to soak up the qualities of those around us, almost like emotional sponges. We look for fulfillment, validation, and connection through other humans. It feels good. But, in doing so, we are just undermining something way more significant than our friendships. It’s about having that divine presence in our lives: the energy and love that only a higher being can give.

People are not supposed to drag other people into their emotional whirlpools at all. Some folks thrive on exerting power over others. Other people try to become part of the other person to gain something from them. Then, relationships become transactional; you give a little love, expecting a little love in return. This dynamic can easily turn into a web of dependency. We’re not just exchanging hugs and kisses; we’re exchanging pieces of our emotional well-being.

Love should primarily be about connecting with our creator. When we truly find that romance with a higher power, it becomes a transformative experience. You should sincerely say, “Lord, I am nothing without you.” In that moment, those words carry a weight that no human relationship can replicate. By opening ourselves up to that divine connection, we start to take on the imprint of His character. We become one with Him and dependent on Him. We need Him, and that need is love.

Playing God

But if we believe that other people can fulfill our needs, we start to lose parts of ourselves. This happens when we rely on others, and they depend on us. If we play god, there’s a certain allure to being needed. We love it when others lean on us. But this neediness can lead us down a slippery slope. A relationship built solely on mutual dependence can become burdensome. It’s exhausting when you’re constantly trying to fulfill someone else’s emotional void or expecting them to fill yours.

In the end, it all boils down to this beautiful paradox. Actual involvement with others should be an extension of our deep connection with our creator. When we engage with the divine, we become whole. We find our identity and self-worth in something everlasting and unshakable rather than in fleeting human interactions.

Final Thoughts

The next time you find yourself investing too much emotional energy into a person, take a step back. If you are seeking warmth and understanding in a friend, reconsider your actions. Re-evaluate where that need is coming from. Are you genuinely looking for a connection? Or are you hoping to draw validation and love from someone who, just like you, is a beautiful mess?

Ultimately, it’s natural to crave companionship. Still, grounding ourselves in a relationship with our creator is the most fulfilling way to experience love. After all, when we build our worth through that divine connection first, we free ourselves. We are liberated from the ups and downs of human relationships. So let’s remember: It’s wiser to trust in something greater, something that doesn’t waver. Dive into that romance with the divine. Watch as your perspective on relationships — both with yourself and others — begins to transform.

Stay connected with the divine, and keep your heart open!

Finding True Love: Beyond External Validation

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