BP105
A woman faces a problem with her spouse in two aspects. At first, she feels a deep affection for him, which is actually her way of feeling good about herself, and this is selfish. Then, she goes above and beyond to meet his needs, even when he should really be reflecting on his own indiscretions and desires. He should be concerned for her well-being instead of using her to satisfy his own lust and pleasure.
The woman attends to his lustful need and gives him no pain or discomfort, all in the name of her “love” for him. However, she is merely acting in her own self-interest, as she emasculates him by falsely bolstering his sense of masculinity.
It is important to recognize that sexuality is not a strength but a weakness. The shame of sexuality should naturally give rise to conflict.
The woman shields the man from confronting his true self and shame. He, in turn, adores her for it, showering her with worldly possessions occasionally.
Once the woman realizes that loving the beast only makes it a bigger beast and less of a person, she rejects him and will have nothing to do with him. Her rejection drives him wild or even violent. She may feel fear or anger in response to his behavior, so she once again gives in to his demands.
Love-Hate Dynamic
This pattern often plays out in the form of the classic love-hate dynamic in many homes. However, it is important for her to recognize that every time she gives in to the beast, it gets worse, not better. Every time she does not give in to the beast, it gets worse, not better. It seems that she can’t win for losing, no matter what she does.
There is something missing in the relationship between her and the beast. Eventually, the man may seek solace in the company of another woman, which only intensifies his feelings of guilt. In an attempt to alleviate this guilt of “love,” he may turn to vices such as alcohol, drugs, smoking, or engaging in reckless behavior. Paradoxically, these actions only serve to deepen his sense of guilt. He becomes more of a beast and more wild.
It is worth noting that many individuals who exhibit violent tendencies are often grappling with feelings of impotence.
True Love
True love is that which knows not to “love” and hate. It remains neutral, not supporting the ego of the other person. When a woman seeks love from someone out of her own insecurity and to feel good about herself, she inadvertently spoils them rotten and brings out their beastly side instead of their best. By being too friendly with her spouse, she is condoning his actions.
She should not be too friendly with her children and other close family members. She doesn’t have to be mean to them, but it’s important not to be overly friendly. When she “loves” them or is too friendly, she is seeking love for herself. When she hates them, it is because it didn’t work out as she had hoped, and they rejected her. If she remains neutral, she may feel left out and be alone, but she won’t feel lonely.
Interestingly, the further she distances herself from them physically, the closer she becomes to them spiritually. It’s a peculiar phenomenon. When she is physically closer to them, the further away from them she is in spirit. So, her joy should not depend on whether they like her or not. Her happiness should come from within, independent of their opinions.
Human Love
Human love and hate can be driven by selfishness. Human love involves accepting your spouse and children just as they are.
When a person makes their loved ones feel important, it’s often because they want to feel important themselves. However, it is essential to let go of our own selfishness when it comes to raising our children and nurturing our close relationships. Otherwise, our loved ones may constantly point out our selfishness without looking at their own selfishness and actions.
Being nice to others is like skillfully navigating through life’s challenges and opportunities. Women may feel hesitant to be completely honest with men because they fear rejection. They may resort to lying to their partners to make them feel good and then lying down with them. This can lead to a tangled web of deceit and complications.
Lessons
The good news is that it is never too late to make a positive change. There are metaphysical laws that govern our human minds, and we can discover them through various means.
We can learn from the guidance of our loving parents, observe the mistakes of others, or even learn the hard way through our own experiences. By embracing these lessons, we can strive to create more harmonious and fulfilling relationships.